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How To Handle Betrayal

I'm the perfect person to talk about this topic today. I've been betrayed so many times. However, I was able to handle every experience with ease and total gracefulness.

Here are ways to handle betrayal.

1. Learn to be an actor.

Acting is a skill. Everyone can do it. Since we're talking about betrayal, let's consider the one who betrayed you as an enemy. Let's accept the fact that anyone who has bruised us is an enemy.

All you have to do is be firm inside but bend outside. Meaning, act as if you're alright but don't forget that you're hurting inside of you. It's the only way to exist without being trodden by your enemy. While doing this difficult step, try to spot the weaknesses of your opponent. Once you found it, you'll be able to use it someday.

2. Don't be ostentatious.

With one of my allies - Jit

Here, I'm talking about being low-key. Play to be the underdog. In that way, your enemy will not notice your underground movement - your way of spying on the guilty party. This is the best time to downplay your real motive and prepare for that one final strike.

3. Don't be afraid to exist with your enemy.

Sometimes its very daunting to exist with the people who betrayed you. If you cannot escape this scenario, be sure to have allies with you. Enlist people to be your army of supporters. Select those who isn't aware of the situation to be more natural and unnoticeable. Mix them with those who are extremely concerned of your goals.

In that way, you'll have one impenetrable empire that will protect your interests. By the way, don't be a user either. Give back to those who look after your back.

4. Select a fallback position.

If there's a situation that your enemy has discovered your ploy, learn to apply a fallback position. Find a way to divert the attention of your opponent. Do something that you haven't tried before. Eliminate fear right away. Maybe, you can disappear for a while. The setback will disappear soon. So take time to reload your weapons and take a rest for a while.

5. Don't think about revenge, instead choose sweet revenge. This is applicable to those who have found an enemy in the most unexpected way. Try to be fair all the time. Forgive and forget. Be friendly. If all of these things fail - don't fret. It's not your problem anymore. Let karma rule!

How to Chase Moments of Success

One of my close friends took a photo of Bonifacio Global City - somewhere in High Street. The photo of the popular working environment reminds me of my dreams when I was younger - to settle in the metro. Now that I'm here, I have nothing to think about but be grateful of the dream come true. This is just the beginning. I'm still climbing the ladder of success until I can finally say that the lives of the people that I truly love have been blessed because of my hard work.

Lately, I've been thinking about my life experiences. Many people want to know my secret of the way I handle difficulties or problems along the way. It's simple. Although I still have to prove more in this life, I find the following things very effective nowadays. 

Here are the steps that I follow.

1. I try to have a walk everyday, think about my goals, instead of the heartaches. 

2. Then, I think about each problem one by one. Every pain of my heart is being blotted out by telling myself that it's just temporary.

3. I also visualize the things that I really want to happen. 

4. It's not my habit to avoid people with negative thinking, but I see to it that I learn from them. I try to see the way they see things. 

5. I always take risks - as in, all the time. It's one way of checking myself if I still have enough strength, wisdom and grace to be positive in everything that I encounter in this life.

See that beautiful building? That's my beloved SM Aura - the place where I started to move forward
with fierceness, wisdom and total determination. Go figure! :)

6. I prioritize being friendly with other people and show interest in them. Everything I touch will only turn into gold if I have people to rally behind me. Remember, it's up to you to be friendly, kind and just at the same time.

7. I'm workaholic - but I work smart all the time. I line up my priorities in order - from the one with the biggest Return of Investment to the job with the smallest profit. 

8. I'm very particular with having enough sleep. It's one way of staying alert as I chase my dreams. If I can sleep properly, I see to it that I find time to catch up.

9. I talk to different kinds of people - loner, womanizer, rich, boss, beggar, landlord or landlady - and more. Each one of them has something in common - wisdom.

10. I read books - all the time. If I'm inspired of something, I try to find books about it and read important topics related to it. Then, I write ideas in a notebook for my reference. I even watch movies about the things that inspire me.

The list goes on and on but since I still have to chase my dreams at this hour, I'll just share 10 of the ways to chase moments of success. Take care, sweethearts!

Bench Love Local Round Neck Cotton Tee

Hi sweethearts! How are you? I'm having a great time organizing my clothes for the last quarter of the month. I'm preparing for a big project that I've been planning for days. It's related to fashion so I'm sure you're all excited for it, especially my dear friends.

I'm Karence - tired, sleepy and happy. I want to share my real life with you, sweethearts!

For now, I'd like to share my fondness for Bench Round Neck Cotton t-shirts. I own two pieces - lavender and pink.

I really love Bench products, especially the cotton t-shirts. It's soft, comfortable and easy to style. It's perfect for dress down, too.

I choose colors that will match with my black leggings and jeans because I want to have a perfect off-duty look all the time.

Lately, I've been thinking about loving local products, fashion pieces that are available here. What do you think about it? Personally, I don't really care about the origin of a styling piece as long as it's comfortable to wear and affordable. After all, budget-conscious style lovers think about buying those kinds of items.

Enjoy life!

Christian Grey's Ana Shows off Dazzling Look at InStyle Event in Canada

Dakota Johnson was catapulted to stardom as she played one of the most iconic roles in the history of franchise films presentation, Anastasia Steele. Supported by her increasing fans from across the globe, she continues to shine as Christian Grey's object of affection in the movie, Fifty Shades of Grey.

Earlier today, the 25-year-old actress was spotted wearing a chic outfit at the Hollywood Foreign Press Association & InStyle's annual celebration of the Toronto International Film Festival
 in Toronto, Canada.

Dakota remarkably shown her toned physique by wearing a semi see-through dress at the prestigious event. The gorgeous dress has a ruffle hemline that accentuated her look. She completed her attire with a pair of black T-strap heels and a red lipstick to match her simple makeup and hairstyle.

Images | Dakota Johnson at InStyle Event

Recently, Dakota is promoting her new film, Black Mass. She plays crime boss Whitey Bulger's girlfriend Lindsey Cyr opposite Johnny Depp.

Etiquette for Mistresses Inspired Blog Post

I want to be straight-forward in sharing this sensitive topic because I don't want to be judgmental. For always, I want to be true to my dear readers.

I'm not Miss Near Perfect. I'm just a girl who wants to live life, learn from it and share my blessings. I've been to the lowest low and the opposite side is very liberating - the feeling of happily ever after - the moment we all want to seize.

I'm not really heartbroken. The perfect words to describe how I feel right now is being reborn. If you'll look at my photo, you'll never see any hint of sadness, guilt and pain. I'm an expert in hiding emotions and I think it gives me so much power as I deal with people around me. I can hold my own very well. That's the way I am.

But I have done something wrong. It's true. I have a dark secret. It isn't very dark because I've never crossed that far to do anything that can tarnish my reputation. Still, any wrongdoing isn't looked upon any degree of allowance when it's comes to karma.

I've almost ruined everything that I built, but it was stopped for all the good reasons. From the very start, I knew that it should be negated to avoid the consequences that will eventually follow from it. At least, I wasn't annihilated by the darker side of me. I just learned from it.

The storm is not yet over - I should remain calm, wise and strong.
I know that only fools rush in so I didn't appear giddy about the choice that I had last August 2015. I was prepared for everything out of curiosity. After all, first-hand experience is the best tool for a writer like me at the expense of my fragile heart. Sad.

How It Started

I noticed a man who is obviously older than me - in a place that [I cannot state here.] It's a beautiful place - perfect for dreamers like us.

He's absolutely curious about me because every time I look up, he's intently staring at me. His eyes are wandering all over me, searching for the mystery of my presence. Would you believe that it started when I became so curious of the intensity of his gaze? Since I'm not the type who is comfortable with people I'm not acquainted with, I avoided him.

Later on, there's something in him that translates to me in a very mysterious way, but something really dangerous - knowing the way I live my life. I've never done something stupid before. Now that I've tried acting as a rebellious child, I have to accept all the consequences of my actions.

What I Learned

Let me base my words on some of the 26 rules mentioned in the book, "Etiquette for Mistresses" by Julie Yap-Daza.

1. If you're involved with a married man, don't believe everything he wants you to believe in the first place. Don't believe his words that you're perfect for him. Aside from just listening to everything, just smile and pretend you liked it. At the end of the day, everything he shared to you will become dust in the shadows of regrets.

The game plan is to stay grounded. I enjoyed him being sweet and all that - but I never took it seriously. We know that as a rule, "men are liars." If you're going to ask him if still love his wife after sharing all his marriage grievances [just like what Bea Alonzo's character in A Love Affair], prepare to hear the answer, "she needs me," because it will take your breath away. Just don't take it seriously. Please.

2Be prepared to be a holiday orphan. As stated in the book, "Mistresses should be ready to give up Valentine's Day, Christmas Day, New Year, Holy Week and his birthday," you should accept the fact that you're not part of the circus. I wasn't lucky that his birth month is August. Obviously, I lost all the "tickets" to be there despite the fact that he told me a few days ago that I'd be counted. Don't dream. It won't happen. No wonder I just smiled when he told me that we will go somewhere that time.

3Never believe, and never say anything unfriendly about his wife, not even after he recites a litany of her faults. Don't add anything to his litany because you have no idea how he made it up just to make you believe he's into you. My technique was simple - I just listen very carefully, give him time to spill it out, give sympathy and be melodramatic. But, in the end, I only praised him for being such a good husband and father and stated that, "I have no words to stay, I am not her." Very safe, eh!

4It is helpful for a mistress to have her own network of friends. I'm not a real mistress, but at least I have an idea why it's so important to have your own allies in this kind of game. Obviously, it's necessary to enlist them as your spies when you needed it most. When things turned sour, my friends rallied behind me for total support. So it was easy for me to act like a queen amidst the battle. I became so empowered that moving on swiftly happened.

Image | This Wall Between Us

5Perish all thought that someday you'll be number 1. Don't ever think that you'll become the first lady, especially if he has kids with his wife. Any woman in love may act like a madwoman, but she cannot act like a fool.

6Resist the urge to shower him with gifts. Avoid evidences! I told him, "I have something for you. It's an artwork," He said, "Sad because I can't take it with me." "You can put it in your locker," I probed more. "No. What if she will discover it?" That's it! Avoid evidences! He will always find a way to hide everything.

7. When all else fails, leave him. This is my favorite scene. I know that it's the hardest part of the situation, but it's really important to know when to disappear. Forget everything that happened. Those emotions are just emotions - feelings that can easily be set aside. Act like a queen - strong, wise and compassionate.

What happens when you run into him and a woman not his wife?

Yes. This situation happened a few days we decided to end everything. By accident, I saw him meeting another girl not his wife in the same dining place that we used to visit a few days back. How did I handle the circumstance? I sat in the most strategic location and stayed calm. Then, he passed by me with a forced smile and a matching signal that he's moving on after the shameful scene. Obviously, he's aware that I'm not stupid and I've already figured it out.

What if everything falls into the right places afterwards? For example, a common friend will give you information about him - things that will help you understand him. Just be grateful. Don't take it personally. You've got your fair share of the situation, the things your learned are enough. Leave everything behind. The odds are not on your favor. You've done something wrong, remember?

How I Handled It

It's not simple. I played along. Even though I just mirrored his actions, I was really honest when we became really close friends. I gave him true friendship. The only thing that I kept to myself is to negate the idea that he loved me. I know it was part of the game of seduction - no matter how sweet it is/was - I have to admit that it isn't for real. In the end, I felt bad because I lost the friendship. But, at least, I learned many things. After all, it's one of the reasons I got involved in the situation. It's to live and to learn - and have the guts to fight for love, life and happiness.

Here's a post of Spot.ph about the Etiquette for Mistresses movie.

By the way, please don't ask me about the name of the Alpha Male.

Telecaster Guitars and Love of Music

We know that music is nature's greatest painkiller. It has been part of our lives since time immemorial. We feel comfortable listening to beautiful music every time we experience sadness. In fact, our love of music is evident in our daily activities.

One of the most notable parts of music education is a telecaster guitar. Many music stores nationwide and online shopping portals offer teles for everyone, especially those who use the instrument to hone their music-related skills. After all, the electric guitar has simple elegance and versatile playability that music lovers will surely love.

If you're a music lover, let music guide you in dealing with the odds that life has to offer. For many of us, it is wise to cling onto melodic passion than listen to painful voices in our minds because of problems that we encounter every day. What do you think?

Fashion Lovers Jade Justine Towse and Karence

Hi! I'm Karen Lopez. As soon as I started lounging again in the corporate world, I met a soft-spoken, talented and friendly lady named Jade Justine Towse. She was known as an impressive bassist as well as multi-instrumentalist - a member of Kala band.

We had an opportunity for a pictorial last July. Thanks to my friend, Jules, for the photos. Here's my favorite.

Here's one post from her YouTube Channel. 

Watch Jade's videos here and visit my blog here. Thank you, sweethearts! Cheers! :)